What if ADHD is not about the amount of play but the control over it? A lot of ADHD children come from families where they get to play, but in parental expectation when, how and what, many kids also get diagnosed before school-years. My hypothesis comes from professionals that say it’s an executive disorder not an attention disorder. WHAT IF: The primary caregiver doesn’t have the ability to read and respond to the child’s needs appropriately, therefore signalling need doesn’t have a successful response in the world. What would become intention is damaged from the get-go. The children learn they are externally regulated by the world and their intent has barely any place. The brain doesn’t spend energy on developing useless circuits, and the pathways in the brain driving intentional behaviour, are underdeveloped. When the child becomes the age where intentional behaviour is expected by the environment, he/she is behind, and the brain is unable to regulate because it is expected to do something it was not expected to do before. Be in control, and decide what should happen. So they burst into hyperactivity or detach into inattentiveness. When puberty hits, the hormonal system turns upside down and it gets even more difficult to manage, with much more obvious signs, but the problem stems all the way from the time of infancy. How many helicopter parents have kids with ADHD? How many take their kids to various after school activities, or divide every second of a child’s day, decide what they should wear and in general have no healthy attention on developing their decision making authority in small things? You can be a textbook parent if you aren’t able to read the child’s need and they are always adapting to you, and under constant control in some way there is no need for their intent to exist at all. This could be part of the mental health epidemic following putting children into institutions early, and mothers and fathers not being available when needed to develop a secure attachment, and learn to read the child’s behaviour.
Three sisters, my ONLY family, have inherited and or developed personality disorders and more including BPD, BIPOLAR 3 or 4. We're all over 50 now, I'm 3rd born of 4 women. 8 yrs now in earnest compassion and empathy I've tried to be loving, open. Truthful and generous. Our mom, passed away 2004. She suffered with severe depression & BPD. I must find my way alone, use to this M.O. But I love my sisters as I do myself. At 57 yrs old, I realize how debilitating and exhausting my roll was and is now! Idk how to be ok with me, if I'm unattentive to their endless needs. HELP.
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