Alternative to your point on ADHD and play
What if ADHD is not about the amount of play but the control over it? A lot of ADHD children come from families where they get to play, but in parental expectation when, how and what, many kids also get diagnosed before school-years. My hypothesis comes from professionals that say it’s an executive disorder not an attention disorder. WHAT IF: The primary caregiver doesn’t have the ability to read and respond to the child’s needs appropriately, therefore signalling need doesn’t have a successful response in the world. What would become intention is damaged from the get-go. The children learn they are externally regulated by the world and their intent has barely any place. The brain doesn’t spend energy on developing useless circuits, and the pathways in the brain driving intentional behaviour, are underdeveloped. When the child becomes the age where intentional behaviour is expected by the environment, he/she is behind, and the brain is unable to regulate because it is expected to do something it was not expected to do before. Be in control, and decide what should happen. So they burst into hyperactivity or detach into inattentiveness. When puberty hits, the hormonal system turns upside down and it gets even more difficult to manage, with much more obvious signs, but the problem stems all the way from the time of infancy. How many helicopter parents have kids with ADHD? How many take their kids to various after school activities, or divide every second of a child’s day, decide what they should wear and in general have no healthy attention on developing their decision making authority in small things? You can be a textbook parent if you aren’t able to read the child’s need and they are always adapting to you, and under constant control in some way there is no need for their intent to exist at all. This could be part of the mental health epidemic following putting children into institutions early, and mothers and fathers not being available when needed to develop a secure attachment, and learn to read the child’s behaviour.
How to know when to walk away
Three sisters, my ONLY family, have inherited and or developed personality disorders and more including BPD, BIPOLAR 3 or 4. We're all over 50 now, I'm 3rd born of 4 women. 8 yrs now in earnest compassion and empathy I've tried to be loving, open. Truthful and generous. Our mom, passed away 2004. She suffered with severe depression & BPD. I must find my way alone, use to this M.O. But I love my sisters as I do myself. At 57 yrs old, I realize how debilitating and exhausting my roll was and is now! Idk how to be ok with me, if I'm unattentive to their endless needs. HELP.
Request to watch a video about the Christian and Jewish connection of Jesus
Dear Dr. Peterson, I hope this message finds you well. I am a big fan of your work and have been following your lectures and books for some time now. I came across a video that I believe would be of great interest to you, as it covers topics that are central to your research and teachings, specifically the Christian and Jewish connection of Jesus being the morning and evening sacrifice. The speaker of the video has a Masters in Biblical studies from Moody Bible College and completed Jewish Yushiva school which adds a unique perspective to the topic. I believe your Exodus and Genesis lectures would benefit from the insights provided in this video. The video is an hour long and it explains the religious and spiritual significance of this connection in an engaging and enlightening way. I think you would find it thought-provoking and inspiring, and I would greatly appreciate your feedback on it. I understand that you are a busy individual and may not have the time to watch the video. I am linking the YouTube video below if it is convenient for you. Thank you for your time and consideration, Lugohst Balkuvors Link - https://youtu.be/jYfHaYWp8jk
Best all-in-one content platform?
good morning. in the now, im a 50 something, born again, relationship weary, estranged from my canadian family, bicycle mechanic from small town southern ontario but living in europe since '88 - smallest nutshell bio version possible - and my question is; is there a platform where ALL of mr peterson's regularly posted stuff is available on a subscription basis? Has the supercast platform become kind of passé? im of very modest means and although im trying really hard to save money for later, streamline my overall expenses, cheat to have fun trotz allem, pay my fricken stratospheric energy bill like everybody else and just generally struggling with accepting transitioning from grownupdom to adulthood as a 56year old after just not getting it for way too long yada yada yada, i do have a small budget slot with which i want to get the highest JBP yield possible? im pretty well sorted with his one off cost products but im gonna want, if possible, to decide on a subscription platform soon..... or not. i see that the "daily wire" is quite popular nowadays but is there such a thing as a one stop JBP shopping mall? is all his regular stuff up there? any advice, yes/no answers or sign that this mail gets processed somehow would be very cool. thanks so much and merry christmas! mp germany "saved by jesus christ, healed by teetotalism and reinvented by jordan b peterson"
A humble guest request/recommendation
Dr. Peterson, I humbly recommend that you talk to Steve Deace (Twitter: @SteveDeaceShow) sometime, as he is one of the top sources when it comes to, er, “medical malfeasance”. I actually consider him an American hero on that front: not a term I use lightly. Three reasons for this request: • I believe there is enormous silent demand for you to have a detailed, in-depth conversation about c0v1d tyranny, especially with someone like Deace. • He has an incredibly deep and wide-ranging knowledge of Christian theology. • He is incredibly sharp and I think you would really enjoy talking with him. If you’re curious about Deace, I should point out that he has an incredibly important book coming out soon, the title of which is Rise of the Fourth Reich, in which he and coauthor Daniel Horowitz (another brilliant man) make the case for a second Nuremberg trial. This is literally the first request I’ve ever made of anyone, for any show, ever! :) God bless everything you have done for humanity, for my country, and for God. I am overwhelmed every day with gratitude that the Good Lord put you on this earth. God bless you.
Self-authoring, narrative and delusion
Dear Dr Peterson, I am suspicious of myself. If I want something, I wonder whether I should want it - whether it's GOOD to want it. If I try to talk myself into having confidence necessary to pursue a goal, I wonder whether I'm delusional in my confidence. Where is the line between positive self-narrative and delusion? Is it when the world pushes back? But sometimes the world will push back even if you're right, and sometimes it won't push back even when you're wrong - at least not immediately, and damage can be done in the meantime. I have deluded myself before, much to my detriment. I don't care to repeat the experience. How might I light that fire in my belly, to think that I am the one to do what nobody else is doing despite my deficits, without being foolish? How can I know if I'm lying to myself about my capacities before I start on a lengthy and difficult project? Thank you.
Are you familiar with this frame of reference?
I assume you are familiar with The Social Dilemma. There's a conversation on How Social Media Warps Creators with one of The Social Dilemma creators - Tristan Harris. Are you familiar with this frame of reference? https://youtu.be/7EbPIdyd3I0 I believe many wouldn't mind you inviting Tristan on your podcast.
Listened to Lex Fridman Interview; was struck by Grad. School/fear of death
Hello Dr. Peterson, I am not at all suicidal nor do I idealize death in any way, but much like you, during my time in postgraduate schooling (law; I’m 32) I have been feeling the crunch of time on my shoulders nearly exactly as you described in your past. Do you have any short advice for me on rooting out why this has occurred? (For reference I am Above 80% openess, moderate conscientious , highly extroverted, moderate/low agreeableness, and low neuroticism) Because of the former, I don’t think it’s a obsession, could it be a spiritual tie? Thanks. Best wishes, you are an awesome person.
Interpretation of Beethoven's 5th - 1st movement
Hope this isn't a pompous question, but when I listen to Beethoven's 5th symphony, specifically the 1st movement I think of your life- the ups & downs, triumphs & tribulations- always ascending, moving forward and upward no matter how bleak or painful or difficult. Through it all, you seem to me to have become totally fearless; just like how the music comes back stronger after ever downturn. It is an inspiring thing to witness. Anyway, I'm sure you've heard it, but do you have any thoughts/interpretations?
Does the future authoring program work if you have BPD?
I heard you say that BPD is a disorder where people are unable to implement any solution and it rings completely true to me. I'm very smart, I can tell you exactly what the problem is, and I can tell you what I can do to fix it, but it seems completely useless because it stays in the stratosphere of reflection; it's disconnected from an actual acting self. My psychiatrist said he's concerned I'll fail the BPD program (even though I haven't started yet) so I'm looking for alternative solutions.
Hello, Dr. Peterson :)
If men have to "earn access to women", as you've put it in one of the lectures of yours I've seen, what do women have to "earn access" to, how do they have to earn that access, and what are some red flags that she's not the type of woman that a man should allow to access... whatever it is?? Thank you.
Why would someone start many good habits only to replace them with worse ones than they previously had?
What could make someone prone to starting good habits quickly and often, only to abandon them for different, bad habits in a short period of time? I'm talking about someone that tries to, and by all measures, seems to, 'get their life together' often, only to 'mess it up' with bad habits/bad associations. Examples could be: Seeming to be renewed by a sense of self worth, only to get into another damaging relationship, starting an exercise regimen and sticking to it for a month, only to gain the weight back (plus some), starting a new diet and then quitting it a month later, starting a new job but getting fired within 6 months, etc.
Hello, Dr. Peterson :)
I've been trying to figure out why I'm so Neurotic (NEUROTICISM - 87th percentile, WITHDRAWAL - 91st percentile, VOLATILITY - 77th percentile) and it struck me within the last half hour while I was dealing with the inconvenience of road construction on my way home from work that my reaction(s) to it could be summed up, at least partially, in two ways: "why should I have to deal with this?", and "[it] shouldn't be this difficult" - (While the second one could be applied specifically, I did also notice it could be extrapolated into a generally applicable sentiment). With an eye towards deconstructing those statements, that come across and feel like expressions of neurotic drives - that I'd like to retire and grow out of - what are your thoughts? Thank you :)
I feel like I'm getting less intelligent(wc?), something I remember seemed to happen suddenly in my early school years, and I can't put it into words that well/ as well as I want to.
There was a time when I was young that everything made sense, and I knew enough and was quick enough to come up with answers to the questions I was faced with - either from my peers or life. I don't remember *exactly* when that changed, but I do seem to recall a certain realization having a significant role in that change - the realization that no matter what I did and how I protected myself anything I could build could be taken down too quickly and easily by someone that would face no repercussions from their wrongdoing. (That's definitely part of it; it felt like a wound in my psyche was partially filling in and my lower neck/ upper torso relaxed - noticeably - while I typed that.) That is the essence of it; the more specific realization was that (insane) women could ruin my life with mere accusations and get away with it because I had no recourse against it as a man. How do I get over this? I'm tired of holding myself back, and I'm tired of not being as quick as I used to be, *need* to be, or thought I was - and through looking into the culture war I can no longer stay convinced that I will be able to avoid, first of all: genuine conflict in things I shouldn't have to even participate in against people that live it, and secondly the seemingly increasingly likely civil war... all of which is compounded because I can't even process whether things are truly escalating in that fashion or not (as the data is impossible to collect, let alone measure, accurately.) .............................................If it helps, my results from your personality test are, AGREEABLENESS - 35th percentile, COMPASSION - 42nd percentile, POLITENESS - 32nd percentile, CONSCIENTIOUSNESS - 35th percentile, INDUSTRIOUSNESS - 8th percentile, ORDERLINESS - 76th percentile, EXTRAVERSION - 31st percentile, ENTHUSIASM - 47th percentile, ASSERTIVENESS - 22nd percentile, NEUROTICISM - 87th percentile, WITHDRAWAL - 91st percentile, VOLATILITY - 77th percentile, OPENNESS TO EXPERIENCE - 61st percentile, INTELLECT - 72nd percentile, OPENNESS - 44th percentile .................................................................................................... Part of me is just like "You just need to actually learn to *think* - like the good Dr. says", while another part tells me I just need to contribute something useful and productive, while yet another aspect says, "You can't even bear the burden of your own fucking Neuroticism, what do you think you'll be able to do for anyone else that won't be counter-productive or make you look more stupid than you should."
How to deal with a suicidal family member?
I recently got out of the US military and moved back home. My brother moved home the same day. A few months in, he got in drunken fight with my dad and it came out that he was suicidal. Well that became the family's focus. He went to the hospital for 10 days and started medicine. There was a lot of confusion and hopelessness in myself but mostly with my parents. I feel I did a good job holding my parents together and then helping my brother back up and telling him everything i know about mental health and being a capable man. I have been suicidal myself. I recovered and I've been doing well; I'm also 19 months sober. All I do is listen to you and find my faith in Christ again every day and then try and be the best man i can . I can't thank you enough, Dr. Peterson. But less than 3 months into my brother's treatment he quit, doesn't want meds, therapy, any of it. Now he just avoids everyone in the house, doesn't talk to anyone at all. I've heard you say a few times to not cast pearls before swine and if someone doesn't want your help save yourself and stop trying to help. But what should I do in the mean time? How can I help my parents? Is there anything I can do to help my brother want to carry his burden?
Four years have passed...and...
From one of your 2018 video's: "Because I’m on guard so much it’s easier for me to get a bit snappy and unpleasant and that’s bad and I don’t want to do that. I want to stay calm and detached and try to tell the truth and be happy that I’m there regardless of the circumstances. The problem is I’m becoming too much on guard and I’ve noticed a developing sense of impatience within me an some suspicion and that’s not good. I don’t want to be in situations where those are my fundamental orientations. It’s a sign of a certain amount of internal corruption on my part." I have no comment...but I'm wondering if you do?
Premium Feed vs Regular Feed
Dr. Peterson, I have recently come to realize your premium feed is no longer updating to meet your current releases. I’m happy to enjoy your content on the regular podcast channel, but would rather have it on the premium (commercial free) feed! Please advise! -Zach