How do I know if I should grow the hell up and quit whining or if there is really something wrong?
Some people I know have terrible character qualities and to me, it's obvious that there is something terribly wrong with them, but when I raise that idea to other people, they don't seem to have the same experience. Despite this, I am typically right in predicting that their character flaws have the exact specific negative effects in certain situations.
How do I know if I should grow the hell up and quit whining or if there is really something wrong?
Some people I know have terrible character qualities and to me, it's obvious that there is something terribly wrong with them, but when I raise that idea to other people, they don't seem to have the same experience. Despite this, I am typically right in predicting that their character flaws have the exact specific negative effects in certain situations.
How can I be less dramatic?
I'm prone to high drama. Every time my husband and I have an argument, it feels like our family's going to collapse for example. I've watched myself and this does not appear to be a relationship-specific problem. I'm like this all the time! This makes my life unnecessarily painful and it takes me a very long time to recover from small conflicts/upsets. Any advice would be greatly appreciated by me andmy long-suffering husband :-)
Nostalgia and its connection to chaos & order
I was listening to a piece of instrumental music recently, and it moved me in a way that I can only describe as nostalgic. Part of the melody was sad and distant, while the other part was hopeful and near. I felt like I was on the border between two emotions, and I became completely captivated by it. It reminded me of the feeling of nostalgia - that longing for the past but hopefullness for the future to be similar. I immediately thought of your book and how much you talk about living on the border between chaos and order. Do you think the "borders" I described are related to chaos & order? Why do you think me, and many others, find such joy and sometimes obesession with nostalgia itself? Are ALL "borders" a good place to be? (The piece is Agape by Nicholas Britell, for reference)