I feel like I'm getting less intelligent(wc?), something I remember seemed to happen suddenly in my early school years, and I can't put it into words that well/ as well as I want to.
There was a time when I was young that everything made sense, and I knew enough and was quick enough to come up with answers to the questions I was faced with - either from my peers or life. I don't remember *exactly* when that changed, but I do seem to recall a certain realization having a significant role in that change - the realization that no matter what I did and how I protected myself anything I could build could be taken down too quickly and easily by someone that would face no repercussions from their wrongdoing. (That's definitely part of it; it felt like a wound in my psyche was partially filling in and my lower neck/ upper torso relaxed - noticeably - while I typed that.) That is the essence of it; the more specific realization was that (insane) women could ruin my life with mere accusations and get away with it because I had no recourse against it as a man. How do I get over this? I'm tired of holding myself back, and I'm tired of not being as quick as I used to be, *need* to be, or thought I was - and through looking into the culture war I can no longer stay convinced that I will be able to avoid, first of all: genuine conflict in things I shouldn't have to even participate in against people that live it, and secondly the seemingly increasingly likely civil war... all of which is compounded because I can't even process whether things are truly escalating in that fashion or not (as the data is impossible to collect, let alone measure, accurately.) .............................................If it helps, my results from your personality test are, AGREEABLENESS - 35th percentile, COMPASSION - 42nd percentile, POLITENESS - 32nd percentile, CONSCIENTIOUSNESS - 35th percentile, INDUSTRIOUSNESS - 8th percentile, ORDERLINESS - 76th percentile, EXTRAVERSION - 31st percentile, ENTHUSIASM - 47th percentile, ASSERTIVENESS - 22nd percentile, NEUROTICISM - 87th percentile, WITHDRAWAL - 91st percentile, VOLATILITY - 77th percentile, OPENNESS TO EXPERIENCE - 61st percentile, INTELLECT - 72nd percentile, OPENNESS - 44th percentile .................................................................................................... Part of me is just like "You just need to actually learn to *think* - like the good Dr. says", while another part tells me I just need to contribute something useful and productive, while yet another aspect says, "You can't even bear the burden of your own fucking Neuroticism, what do you think you'll be able to do for anyone else that won't be counter-productive or make you look more stupid than you should."
How to deal with a suicidal family member?
I recently got out of the US military and moved back home. My brother moved home the same day. A few months in, he got in drunken fight with my dad and it came out that he was suicidal. Well that became the family's focus. He went to the hospital for 10 days and started medicine. There was a lot of confusion and hopelessness in myself but mostly with my parents. I feel I did a good job holding my parents together and then helping my brother back up and telling him everything i know about mental health and being a capable man. I have been suicidal myself. I recovered and I've been doing well; I'm also 19 months sober. All I do is listen to you and find my faith in Christ again every day and then try and be the best man i can . I can't thank you enough, Dr. Peterson. But less than 3 months into my brother's treatment he quit, doesn't want meds, therapy, any of it. Now he just avoids everyone in the house, doesn't talk to anyone at all. I've heard you say a few times to not cast pearls before swine and if someone doesn't want your help save yourself and stop trying to help. But what should I do in the mean time? How can I help my parents? Is there anything I can do to help my brother want to carry his burden?
Four years have passed...and...
From one of your 2018 video's: "Because I’m on guard so much it’s easier for me to get a bit snappy and unpleasant and that’s bad and I don’t want to do that. I want to stay calm and detached and try to tell the truth and be happy that I’m there regardless of the circumstances. The problem is I’m becoming too much on guard and I’ve noticed a developing sense of impatience within me an some suspicion and that’s not good. I don’t want to be in situations where those are my fundamental orientations. It’s a sign of a certain amount of internal corruption on my part." I have no comment...but I'm wondering if you do?
Premium Feed vs Regular Feed
Dr. Peterson, I have recently come to realize your premium feed is no longer updating to meet your current releases. I’m happy to enjoy your content on the regular podcast channel, but would rather have it on the premium (commercial free) feed! Please advise! -Zach