How to become more conscientious?
I took the Big 5 personality test and the results appear to suggest my personality holds me back in achieving my goals. 2.5 years ago I started building two technology start ups while also finishing my PhD in chemistry, my family thought I was mad but in the end I finished my PhD (albeit 12 months late) but I seeded and helped build two thriving startups in carbon capture ( mission zero technologies) and water electrolysis (Supercritical Solutions). 2 years ago my personality score was 80, 5, 60, 36, 87 for agreeableness, conscientiousness, extraversion, neuroticism and openness. I find it amazing I have achieved what I have given my difficulties in orderliness and industriousness, I suppose it's mitgated by a deep conviction that there is nothing more important to work on - I am reaching towards the highest good. I did the test again recently and my scores have moved in directions perhaps more favourable to my pursuits, 68, 20, 69, 10, 92 for agreeableness, conscientiousness, extraversion, neuroticism and openness. In the conscientiousness domain my industriousness has increased from 7 to 50 but my orderliness remains unchanged. As a director of my company I can see how my orderliness and mediocre industriousness can hold me back, especially when I'm tired or stressed. You have talked about assertivness training for people high in agreebleness who seek higher salary, what would you recommend for people low in conscientiousness who desire to be higher so that they can thrive in situations such as mine?
Do men seek honourable deaths?
What do you think about men aiming for an honourable death? Honourable male death seems to be celebrated by western culture: the lives of Klingons, Spartans, James Bond, John Wick, Tony Stark, Socrates and Jesus Christ celebrate men on suicide missions who ultimately succeed by dying for a greater cause. Is dying for a greater cause for men what raising children is for women?
Destruction of negative beliefs
I recently discovered, through a series of your old videos that the malevolence I'd encountered actually HAD led to complex PTSD. I have suffered unbelievably for 20 years, the whole time not being able to truly face the incident (spousal rape) because of the ultimate knowledge that it was my fault. My discovery of the true, and deep malevolence was because of your description of depersonalization (described by him as an out of body experience), which, because I was young and very, very naive was the goal of the exercise suggested my my sociopathic (diagnosed at 14) husband. The emotions I've experienced the last few days have been quite overwhelming, but I've had unimaginable relief and my negative self talk has spontaneously, and without effort on my part become compassionate. Is this a widespread phenomenon? The instantaneous change in behavior due to the destruction of a negative, or incorrect belief?
A Priori Perception and Person-to-Person Imprints
Hello Dr. Peterson, I am soon to graduate law school, and I can't help but think about the impact that your ideas put forth in your talk at Cambridge recently would have on a factfinder, (judge, jury etc., ( as I hope to litigate)). Is it possible to be even close to objective? If so, is it trained behavior like your Machiavellian male and younger female example? If not, what differentiates it from the preconceived/unconscious biases theory put forth by Marxism, CRT etc.? If indeed, your perception of a door and "place to walk through" are simultaneous imprints on your psyche, does this translate to the perception of others around you? For instance, I heard you once talk about a punk rocker you spotted in Canada holding a shopping bag, and you described him as (somewhat like) a force-to-be. Having been a punk myself in my youth I can use my subjective understanding to realize that you're likely correct in your perception in this case; but for others, (who also lack the learned experience described in your Machiavellian example), how does this play out? Power doesn't help in the above example, there are a lot of variables to consider, but for power to work you'd have to be thinking about dominance constantly, and that's just nonsense, because then why care for the sick and elderly, or help someone else's lost child? Humans have something beyond power as a motivator, and with a factfinder in mind, how does that play on the illusion of objectivity?